If you still remember, last year we started analyzing the topic “Correction of anxiety in a child”. Those who do not know, can read this information on the link.
As promised, today I continue a small series of posts.
So that your tot will not suffer from low self-esteem, lack of confidence in its capabilities, below I will give 4 practical recommendations:
Address him by name if he is still small – you can call affectionate names that he likes very much (Helen, Marinochka, Ksyusha, Olezhek, Valerik, Pavlusha, Bunny, Kisonka, etc.).
Establish a relationship of trust with your child. Remember: if now he is reaching out to you in the hope of finding understanding, seeing interest in him in your eyes, and you have ignored all this – he just has to withdraw into himself or fill this need in another place, often not in the best …
Sincerely take part in his games, do not refer to employment – your tot will appreciate it. Many mothers and fathers noticed that a child from 1.5 years old to 4 years old does not want to play alone for a long time without adults. The limit is 15-25 minutes, then a whimper, moaning and drawing attention to oneself begin. The fact is that now he has this vital need – to play with an adult. Therefore, give your child the opportunity to play with a person close to him – mom, dad, grandmother or grandfather. If a child has older brothers and sisters, that’s great! As a rule, he participates with them with pleasure, especially when the age difference is not so big, up to 5 years.
Often praise your child for any successes and achievements not only alone with him, but also in the presence of other family members, other children and adults, encourage in case of failures. In no case do not make fun of: “Eh you, Khryusha”, do not panic: “What have you done with your crooked hands ?!”, do not humiliate in front of other children: “You are no good!” the toddler with his peers is not in his favor: “Look, how Misha can do, and you … well, whoever you went to, such a mess,”. Remember – the word is easy to blurt out, but it will be firmly deposited in the mind of the child and, having received a good portion of reproach, he will doubt his abilities and capabilities. And you, wanting to whip up the urge of karapuz, in order to achieve the desire to do everything well – you get a completely opposite effect.
However, it is also necessary to be able to praise – for no reason, praise turns into an empty idle talk, it becomes insincere and does not bear any meaning for the addressee. Therefore, before you say, think about how the child will perceive your words, whether this praise will be pleasant to him and whether she will help him to move on with confidence.
In the next article we will talk about how to teach a child to manage themselves in difficult life situations. And in order not to overlook the release of a new article – subscribe to updates via RSS at the top right or below it under this publication.
By the way, if you have any questions, additions to this material, or you want to share your own ways of increasing the child’s self-esteem, leave comments. They are very useful to the rest!
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